Of course you can. And it seems some queers think we've just been having all of this sex and pushing back against all of these sexual boundaries for all of these years as just another way to pass the time until we could become just like straight people. I believe queer people have been appointed by some higher power to help change the way that our society thinks about sex. Can you be queer and want a monogamous relationship and two kids and a chocolate labradoodle curled up at the end of your bed where you have sex once a week in the missionary position after the Other gays playing sex police -- and it's starting to happen more and more. When you do that, you're buying into the same broken nightmare we've been fighting against for years. I believe sex is a gift that allows us to connect with others and ourselves for a night, for a lifetime or just for 25 minutes during our lunch break.
How about instead of demonizing sex and the people who are looking for it and having it, we demonize our society that labels the sight of a bulging crotch plastic or otherwise as indecent and embarrassing and threatening. I can't count the number of times that I've heard other queers saying things like isn't it time we grow up and stop wearing jock straps on Pride floats? Unbridled by the restraints of traditional relationships and until very recently solely straight institutions like marriage and the nuclear family, we've long enjoyed the pursuit of sexual relations whenever, wherever, however and with whomever we could get our sweaty gay mitts on. Now that we can get married and queer people having children is becoming more and more accepted, it seems we've forgotten that sexual liberation has always been, in my mind at least, a cornerstone of queer liberation.
Now that we can get married and queer people having children is becoming more and more accepted, it seems we've forgotten that sexual liberation has always been, in my mind at least, a cornerstone of queer liberation. Ultimately, he wants us to strive to attach a different kind of value to sex, one that does not use it as the sole basis of our collective identify and mode of communication, which, when you peel away the hyperbole because, as much as I love sex, it's obviously not the sole basis of my identity or mode of communicationis essentially exactly what so many of our straight counterparts want from us. But you have to stop telling me and everyone else that it's unsavory to want sex simply for sex's sake or how it is or isn't OK to find it or how often it's OK to want it and with whom and where.
When you do that, you're buying into the same broken nightmare we've been fighting against for years. I won't ask you to have more sex with more people or have sex the same way that I have sex or wear a jockstrap in public or visit a sex shop or try Boy Butter. After all, gay men have always had a bit of a reputation when it comes to sex. And I'm still fighting for your right to be able to do that. As much as I want straights to join us in ushering in a brave new age of sexual liberation, I understand that change takes time and that thanks to a whole bunch of heady terms think: I believe sex and pleasure are nothing short of magical and transformative.
BDSM & Chastity Lover
And, if you'll permit me just one more humble suggestion, how about we tell our kids exactly what Boy Butter is and why it exists and stop acting like it's something to be ashamed of? Sexual liberation comes in all kinds of shapes and sizes and flavors and we should all be able to do whatever we want as long as everyone involved is consenting and no one is being hurt -- unless they are asking to be. Also on The Huffington Post: But here's a radical idea: As much as I want straights to join us in ushering in a brave new age of sexual liberation, I understand that change takes time and that thanks to a whole bunch of heady terms think: The goal has never been to get the same rights as non-queer people so we could be just like non-queer people, even though some, like Caramanno, might argue otherwise. I believe sex and pleasure are nothing short of magical and transformative.
Gay - Sex - SM 2
I don't need to see you on XTube being bent over your Ikea coffee table though I'll watch if you want to send me a link. And oh the incomparable joy it's brought me! But here's a radical idea: But for those of you who are already headed to the comments section below to tell me you love sex, you just think it's something that should be kept private, that's fine. I believe sex and pleasure are nothing short of magical and transformative. Other gays playing sex police -- and it's starting to happen more and more. Some in the article worry about the storefronts' mannequins with their bulging crotches, condoms strewn across the neighborhood's sidewalks and the daunting task of having to explain ads for a lubricant called Boy Butter to their kids. No, pleasure has never been a dirty word for us, though many of our straight counterparts who are, let's admit, equally interested in the same wondrous carnal arts but, thanks to our society's sturdy puritan mores, remain unable or forbidden to indulge in them or at the very least admit they secretly do indulge in them may wish it otherwise.